May God Magnify You In The Sight Of All, by Pastor Samuel Obafaiye

Magnify: make (something) appear larger than it is. Other words for “magnify” are: enlarge, boost, enhance, maximise, increase, augment, amplify, etc. I pray, may God make you appear larger than what you are seeing now in Jesus name.
Another definition of “magnify” says “To cause to be held in greater esteem or respect. To increase in significance; to enlarge in fact or in appearance.

As believers, we always pray for God to bless us, which is good. God, however, made me understand that one of the highest forms of His blessing is to be magnified by Him. When God magnifies you, it’s a combination of many blessings.

Abraham was undoubtedly blessed by God. His blessings were in sevenfold:
Genesis 12:2-3 And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing: And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.

It’s not everyone that is blessed by God that become a great nation.
It’s not everyone that is blessed by God that their name became great.
It’s not everyone that is blessed by God that eventually became a blessing.
It’s not everyone that is blessed by God that when people bless them, that their life releases a resultant blessing.
It’s not everyone that is blessed by God that when people curse them, that their life releases a consequential curse in return.
It’s not everyone that is blessed by God that all the families of the earth are blessed through them.

May God not only bless you but may He make of you a great nation.
May God make your name great.
May God turn you into a blessing.
May those who bless you be blessed.
Those who curse you be cursed.
May God make families of the earth to be blessed through you in Jesus name.

There are many ways that one can earn a great name. One may be successful in business, academia, medicine, politics, invention, etc. The apostles of Jesus were however illiterate, yet they were very notable.

In Acts 3:1-11, Peter and John were going to church one day, without any money in their pocket, their name soon went around the whole city of Jerusalem. People looked at them with amazement.

Acts 3:10-11 And they knew that it was he which sat for alms at the Beautiful gate of the temple: and they were filled with wonder and amazement at that which had happened unto him. And as the lame man which was healed held Peter and John, all the people ran together unto them in the porch that is called Solomon’s, greatly wondering.

God also magnified the eleven apostles in the eyes of all, such that other disciples were even afraid to get too close to them.
Acts 5:12-14 And by the hands of the apostles were many signs and wonders wrought among the people; (and they were all with one accord in Solomon’s porch. And of the rest durst no man join himself to them: but the people magnified them. And believers were the more added to the Lord, multitudes both of men and women.)

May God turn you into a wonder and an amazement for Him.
May God put you into a special class that is unrivalled.

Many years ago, I heard an advert which says, there are only two cars in the world: Mercedes Benz and Others. What that means is that Mercedes Benz is in a league of its own.

May you occupy a league of your own.

There are many remarkable days in the life of a man, one of such is the day that God decides to magnify him. For someone here, that day is today.

Joshua happened to be a leader of Ephraim Tribe at 40 years. He was, however, a servant to Moses as they journeyed unto the Promised Land. Moses was like a small god to the Israelites, so it was going to be difficult for anyone to fit into his shoes. It was like an ant taking over from an elephant.

Prior to Moses death, God asked him to lay hands on Joshua, in order to raise Joshua respect among the people.

Numbers 27:15-20 And Moses spake unto the Lord, saying, Let the Lord, the God of the spirits of all flesh, set a man over the congregation, Which may go out before them, and which may go in before them, and which may lead them out, and which may bring them in; that the congregation of the Lord be not as sheep which have no shepherd.
And the Lord said unto Moses, Take thee Joshua the son of Nun, a man in whom is the spirit, and lay thine hand upon him; And set him before Eleazar the priest, and before all the congregation; and give him a charge in their sight. And thou shalt put some of thine honour upon him, that all the congregation of the children of Israel may be obedient.

God however still had a bigger plan to magnify Joshua before all. The day finally came. Joshua successfully led the Israelites through the Jordan River on a dry ground. A feat that only Moses had done before!

Joshua 3:7 And the Lord said unto Joshua, This day will I begin to magnify thee in the sight of all Israel, that they may know that, as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee.

Joshua 4:14 On that day the Lord magnified Joshua in the sight of all Israel; and they feared him, as they feared Moses, all the days of his life.

God says I should tell someone here “This day He will begin to magnify you in the sight of all”. Today is the beginning of your Divine magnification!

May God bring out the giant in you.
May the fear of you come upon all spirits.
May the reverence of you come upon mankind.
May mere mention of your name cause the spine of people to shiver in amazement.
May God amplify your person more than what and who you are right now.

There is someone here, there is a Jordan ahead of you. A great challenge and difficulty in your path. The crossing of it is to bring you into greatness. You are crossing over!
Receive the power to cross that Jordan!

Jordan was the boundary of the Arabian Desert and entry point into Canaan. The Israelites needed to cross it to enter into their Promised Land.
You are here, you have travelled through a ‘desert’ to get here, you are now at the entry point of your Promise Land, I have a good news for you, you are crossing over!

The same scenario that happened to Joshua happened to Solomon too. David had many sons, Solomon was not even one of the first seven sons of David, and her mother had ‘k-leg’ – she had issues, somebody else wife. But Solomon was the one that God wanted to reign after David; so his father tried to prepare the ground for him by letting the who is who in Israel to know about it while he was still on the throne.

1 Chronicles 28:1-6 – And David assembled all the princes of Israel, the princes of the tribes, and the captains of the companies that ministered to the king by course, and the captains over the thousands, and captains over the hundreds, and the stewards over all the substance and possession of the king, and of his sons, with the officers, and with the mighty men, and with all the valiant men, unto Jerusalem. Then David the king stood up upon his feet, and said, Hear me, my brethren, and my people: As for me, I had in mine heart to build a house of rest for the ark of the covenant of the Lord, and for the footstool of our God, and had made ready for the building: But God said unto me, Thou shalt not build a house for my name, because thou hast been a man of war, and hast shed blood. Howbeit the Lord God of Israel chose me before all the house of my father to be king over Israel for ever: for he hath chosen Judah to be the ruler; and of the house of Judah, the house of my father; and among the sons of my father he liked me to make me king over all Israel: And of all my sons, (for the Lord hath given me many sons,) he hath chosen Solomon my son to sit upon the throne of the kingdom of the Lord over Israel. And he said unto me, Solomon thy son, he shall build my house and my courts: for I have chosen him to be my son, and I will be his father.

Even with that, there were still oppositions and threats to Solomon ascending and reigning on the throne after his father. For Solomon reign to be lasting, God had to magnify him in the sight of all Israel.

1 Chronicles 29:23-25 Then Solomon sat on the throne of the Lord as king instead of David his father and prospered, and all Israel obeyed him. And all the princes, and the mighty men, and all the sons likewise of king David submitted themselves unto Solomon the king. And the Lord magnified Solomon exceedingly in the sight of all Israel, and bestowed upon him such royal majesty as had not been on any king before him in Israel.

I decree every opposition to your throne and against your name are now removed in Jesus name.

Solomon had many powerful oppositions, they were all silenced by God. E.g. Absalom, Adonijah, Shemei, Joab, Abiatha, etc.

Your enemies as families, as powers, as prophets, as friends, as accomplices, may God silence them for you. May your name be made great. May your throne be established in Jesus name.

David’s life was also magnified by God. He was the last of eight sons of Jesse, he did not only became the first in their family and clan, but soon became the first in the whole nation.

I Samuel 16:13 – Then Samuel took the horn of oil, and anointed him in the midst of his brethren: and the Spirit of the Lord came upon David from that day forward. So Samuel rose up and went to Ramah.

There is someone here, you are so much to the rear, but God says I’m bringing you to the forefront.
There is another person, under normal circumstances, you know you shouldn’t amount to much, but God says He will change the course of events to favour you greatly.

May God handpicked you to the front in life in Jesus name.

When Abraham was to die, he shared his inheritance with his children; but unto Isaac, he gave the blessing of the covenant. It was in Gerar that God really magnified Isaac beyond his imagination, to the extent that the king of Gerar and its inhabitants were envious of him.

Genesis 26:12-14 Then Isaac sowed in that land, and received in the same year a hundredfold: and the Lord blessed him. And the man waxed great, and went forward, and grew until he became very great: For he had possession of flocks, and possession of herds and great store of servants: and the Philistines envied him.

Genesis 26:16 And Abimelech said unto Isaac, Go from us; for thou art much mightier than we.

There are people in here that will be pillars of cities and nations tomorrow.

Mayors of cities will envy you.

Kings and royals will envy you.

Heads of nations will envy you.

As I conclude, Jesus also enjoyed the magnification of the Father. Prior to the New Testament, all prayers were made directly to God the Father. Even Jesus had to pray to the Father and taught His disciples to do the same.

John 14:28 Ye have heard how I said unto you, I go away, and come again unto you. If ye loved me, ye would rejoice, because I said, I go unto the Father: for my Father is greater than I.

Matthew 6:9-13 After this manner, therefore, pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom and the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.

But because Jesus sacrificed His life for the redemption of man (something that only one of the Trinity had to do); God magnified the name of Jesus after that ordeal, such that mankind must pray through Him to get the attention of the Father.

Philippians 2:5-11 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross. Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name: That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth; And that every tongue should confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.

We must not be ignorant of this divine sequence. All prayers said must either begin or end in the name of Jesus to get to God, otherwise, the prayers will be wasted exercise.

May God magnify you in the sight of mankind.
May God showcase the magnified version of you.
None will be able to pass by you without taking a notice.
You will be too relevant to be ignored.
May the zeal of the Lord of hosts bring it to pass in Jesus name.

Father, magnify me for the whole world to see.
Father, let Your multiplier effect come upon me.
Father, let the world fear You by the reason of my promotion.

The sermon, May God Magnify You In The Sight Of All, by Pastor Samuel Obafaiye, was delivered on October 7, 2018.


Let There Be Light, by Pastor (Mrs) Ekundayo Aruwajoye

GENESIS 1: 1-3

The first time there was a sound in heaven, the very first time God spoke in the Bible, was when He said “let there be light”, and at His command there was light

WHAT IS LIGHT? Light is the presence of illumination.

What does “Let there be light mean?” It simply means darkness depart. Again Let there be light means bringing order to chaos.

I pray that the light of God will shine upon your life today and every darkness will disappear in Jesus name.

Darkness can manifest in different ways:


1) Mark 10: 46-52 This is the account of a blind man called blind Bartimaeus who was born blind and one day he heard that Jesus was passing by and so he began to cry aloud saying Jesus the son of David have mercy on me.There were multitude and multitude of voices speaking in form of noise around this man that very moment but he didn’t allow this to distract him from hearing a heavenly voice, spoken by Jesus saying what do you want me to do for you? And the man gave a specific answer that I may receive my sight”. The voice again spoke back to him and said receive your sight which means darkness depart light has come. The darkness of so many years ended in the life of this man.

2) Mark 5: 1-15 It is the story of the madman of Gadarenes who has 6,000 demons i.e. 6,000 forces of darkness held him captive. But Jesus the light himself came on the scene and the demons in the man heard a voice from heaven saying demons go out of him i.e. Darkness depart and let there be light. At the command of Jesus, the forces of darkness departed because the light of freedom has come. It does not matter how many forces of darkness have been tormenting you, today light of freedom will shine into every area of your life and you will be set loose from every captivity in Jesus name.

3). 2 Kings 4: 1-7. Tells us the story of a woman, a widow of one of the sons of the prophet, who inherited cross darkness of poverty from her late husband and she was about to transfer it to her children. The husband left behind debt that she couldn’t pay and creditors wanted to take her sons for slavery. It was at this junction that she cried to the man of God for help and a voice spoke through the man of God which says woman what do you have in the house she said nothing except a bottle of oil. The voice spoke back to her through this same man of God saying go and borrow vessels very many vessels, lock your door and let your children give you the empty vessels and begin to pour the oil. She followed the instructions strictly and what happened next was that end came to poverty in her life. The darkness of poverty gave way for the light of abundance.

4). 2 kings: 6:24-30 Here darkness covered a whole city. The city of Samaria was besieged by Syria. No one could go out and none could come in and this led to serious famine in the land until the head of a donkey was sold for eighty shekels of silver and one-fourth of Arab of dove droppings for five shekels of silver. chapter 7 vs 1 of 2kings says -:Then Elisha said hear the word of the Lord thus says the Lord tomorrow about this time a seah of fine flour shall be sold for a shekel and two Seah of fine flour shall be sold for a shekel and two Seahs of barley for a shekel at the gate of Samaria. This simply means that about this time tomorrow there shall be no more darkness of famine in Samaria. Because of the word of light that came forth over that city darkness disappeared and things changed tremendously for good for the people of Samaria. – When the first sound came from heaven that says let there be light and there was light, the Bible says the first day began and a new day was born. A new day is born for somebody here today in the mighty name of Jesus. Psalm 30vs 5 says for His anger is but for a moment, His favour is for life. Weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning. Your night of weeping is over and your morning of joy is here. I pray that every area where you have been weeping the Lord will wipe away your tears and give you joy.

The Bible says in Gen 1: 4-5 that God saw that the light was good and God divided the light from darkness and called the light day and the darkness He called night and evening and morning the first day.


God spoke from heaven that there will be a separation between light and darkness i.e. a separation between you and darkness, failure, disappointment, depression, fruitless efforts and separation between you and those who want to destroy you.

In Exodus 12: 21-36 the night God wanted to destroy the firstborn of Egypt, He put a separation between the children of Israel and the Egyptians. God told Moses to tell the Israelites to sprinkle the blood of the lamb on the lintel of their houses so that when the angel of destruction starts his operation he will pass them over.


Certain things must happen when darkness gives way for light.

  1. You will be able to do whatever you have not been able to do. An example is Blind Bartimaeus and the madman of Gadarenes who became an evangelist of Jesus.
  2. Scarcity will give way for abundance. An example is the city of Samaria and the widow of one of the sons of prophets.
  3. An end will come to fruitless efforts. An example was Peter when he toiled throughout the night and got nothing to show for it until when the light came. Lk: 5 -:1-9.
  4. There will be sure evidence of answered prayers. Example Hannah 1st Sam. 2:- 7 -20.


I decree that by the reason of the anointing of today there will be total separation between you and every destiny destroyer in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Jesus Christ is the saviour of the world and He is the light. Anyone who haven’t accepted Him as Lord and saviour will remain in total darkness under the control of Satan. You want Jesus to be your Lord and saviour, then, please yield to this call of salvation now tomorrow might be too late.



Father put a solid divider between me and forces of darkness forever.

Father, please command abundance into my destiny.

Father, please speak light to my life now.

Father, let the darkness called poverty to depart from my life forever.

Father, let the darkness called sickness and disease depart from my life forever.

Father, every area where the enemies have besieged my life and held me captive set me free now.

Father, command an end to fruitlessness in my home in Jesus name.

Father, please pronounce a special blessing on me and my family today in the name of Jesus.

Father, please put me in total control of all situations in my life.

Father, please command total victory for me and every member of my family and church in the name of Jesus.

Father, let there be light in every area of my country.

The sermon, Let There Be Light, by Pastor (Mrs) Ekundayo Aruwajoye, Zonal Pastor RCCG Ondo State Nigeria was delivered on September 31, 2018.


But You Have Received Dunamis – Power, by Pastor Samuel Obafaiye

God has made His followers to be filled and full of power. He has put His power within us. But power within may not benefit anyone even the carrier, except it is put into use. This message is to charge and propel us to understand that we are by far more powerful than we may know; and for us to put that power into action.

Dunamis is a Greek word meaning “act of power”. Dunamis is said to occur 121 times in the New Testament. It connotes ability, power, abundance, strength, meaning, might, violence, virtue, mighty deed, wonderful work, mighty work, a worker of miracle, miracle and mighty.

Everything about Jesus is dunamis. The conception of Jesus Christ is different from that of any other being because of the dunamis involved (Luke 1:35).

The ministry of Jesus was again different from other teachers of the law of His time because His ministry was characterised by dunamis (Mt. 13:53-54).

When Jesus returned from the wilderness after 40 days of fasting and prayers, the Bible says He returned in the dunamis of the Holy Spirit. No wonder His fame spread quickly throughout the region (Luke 4: 14; 36).

Dunamis is a sign that you have been anointed of God (Acts 10:38).

Dunamis is a sign that a man has received the approval of God (Acts 2:22).

Dunamis is transferable (Mk 5:30; Lk. 10:19).

God never asked us to do anything He knows we cannot do. Jesus told His disciples to go into the world and preach the gospel to all creatures. To them, this task must have seemed difficult and impossible. Considering the fact that they were illiterate, poor, few, lack, Jewish, monolingual, etc. but the doing was in the power that was made available to them.

Jesus instructed His disciples to wait for the baptism of the Holy Spirit before they would go out. We also need this baptism today to obtain the necessary power.

To us who have received this baptism, it is not for us to just feel good or cool about it, but to use it for service. It is to turn us into effective witnesses unto Christ.

It is the Holy Spirit that can help us to fulfil the great commission. No man can do it on their own. He grants passion for souls and spreading the gospel. Peter lost passion for the kingdom business after Jesus left. But after the baptism of the Holy Ghost, that passion came back.

He was no longer afraid of death. He stood before the Sanhedrin that killed Jesus without any form of fear. That same power is what we have received. If you don’t have the passion for souls, you need the fresh unction of the Holy Ghost.

He gives us the eyes to see people in the same way that Jesus see them. The ears to hear the brokenness of their lives; He put in our heart love and compassion for the lost soul. Sinners commit sin. We are not to judge sinners, we are to reprove the sin.

The Holy Spirit grants mastery of a skill. He grants us the ability to perform successfully. The sermon of Peter on Pentecost day was a master class. It can only be by the inspiration of the Holy Ghost. The presentation; the citation and the delivery was super. Again, it must have been the anointing of the Holy Ghost, not by being smart.

Jesus told His disciples, “But you shall receive power,…”. In the English language, sentences don’t usually start with the word “But”, something must have been said before. Having checked the scripture, I found out that the sentence “But you shall receive power” came up after two premises:

– First, Jesus had just warned the disciples not to go out of Jerusalem; they were to stay within as outside was dangerous. Jesus knew that they were not yet adequately prepared for what was outside.

– Secondly, the disciples asked if Jesus was ready to transfer the sovereignty of Israel back to them now. Jesus, however, told them to keep quiet and that it is not for them to determine when that will happen, but for God to determine.

It was based on those two conversations that Jesus gave them good news, that though outside may be dangerous; and the Kingdom of Israel may not be in their hands yet, but power (dunamis) from the Holy Ghost is coming upon them soon, with that power they will be able to witness unto Him anywhere and everywhere.

Witness meaning: one who can give a first-hand account of something seen, heard or experienced; an attestant to a fact, statement, or event; testimony. It would have taken the power of the Holy Ghost to do that, as Christ body was purported to have been stolen by His disciples.

For us to witness that today, it can only be by the power of the Holy Ghost, as none of us has seen Jesus physically before.

You are here, it may be that outside is dangerous for you and possibly you have lost your sovereignty to another, I have a good news for you from Jesus, He asked me to say to you, “But you have received power”.

Basically, from my little knowledge, power can come in two ways: it can be generated internally/within or it can be received from an external source. Like electricity can come from a mobile generator; or received through transmission from a power grid.

The only Being that can generate power by Himself is God.

Acts 1:7

Every other entity receives their power from external sources, including Satan who happens to be the highest negative power.

Ezekiel 28:12-17

Satan had become evil, apportions power to other fallen angels and wicked people to do evil. God has been good, apportions power to those who seek Him to do good.

Since power is the ability to do something. The power that is unused can lead to self-destruct. E.g. Depot arms store from civil war almost blow up. I thought Nigeria had been invaded. I pitied myself…

The power that God first gave man was to be fruitful, to multiply, replenish the Earth, subdue it and have dominion over things in the air, in the sea and on land.

After man sinned, the power was lost to Satan. But when Jesus came, died and resurrected; the power was once again restored back to the believer. We then become ambassadors of Christ on earth.

Acts 10:38

When Jesus was anointed with power by the Holy Spirit, He went about doing good and healing those who were oppressed of the devil.

In Luke 10:1-12, when Jesus empowered His disciples, they were sent out to use the power and they did. We too have been given the same power, we ought to go out there and use it.

It is possible to witness at least in three ways:

By one’s mouth – Acts 2: 14-41

By one’s life – Acts 5:13 (11 apostles).

By one’s hands – Acts 5:12

As God’s children, filled with the Holy Ghost, these are things we should be doing with the power that God has given us.

Jesus told the disciples where to witness. They were to start in Jerusalem; then in all Judea; then in Samaria; and to the uttermost part of the earth.

Many believers prefer to witness in church. They just want the microphone. They want other people to do the job of bringing people and they can ‘witness’ to them. The downside to that is that everyone in the church ought to be witnesses of Christ already, so that much power is wasted. What we do here is to encourage one another as the day is fast approaching, and to train up disciples. The only place we can witness is in the city.

In Acts 8:1-40, we read how a disciple called Deacon Phillip whose assignment was to serve food for widows was able to witness Christ first from Jerusalem, then to Samaria and to other parts of the world.

– He preached Christ and people of Samaria gave heed to what he said.

– His life convicted even a sorcerer called Simon.

– God also performed mighty miracles through His hands.

These are things that the power of God in our lives can do.

Some only try to preach with their life, the max score they can get is 34%. Would that make you happy?

In Acts 9:8-18, we read how the great apostle Paul was prayed for by Brother Ananias, as he was probably the nearest disciple where Jesus met Paul. Paul sight was restored and he received the baptism of the Holy Ghost, not by an apostle! What a power he had received! But we have received the same power. What are we doing with it?

The book of Hebrews 11:1-39talksk about heroes of faith. They were people who experienced impartation and/or indwelling of the Holy Ghost power and such affected their generation then and even ours of today for good.

Heb 11:33-39

This can only be by the power of God. But we have received the same power. What are we using the power to do?

Do we want to be like Adam and Eve who received power and mess about with it? No wonder the bible skipped their names.

In Ephesians 3:20, Paul the apostle told the church at Ephesus to give praise to God who is able to make us accomplish more than what we can think or imagine through His mighty power that is at work within us.

That tells us that we have the power that can make us do the unthinkable and unimaginable. If we are not doing that, the problem is not with the power nor the Giver of the power, but with us.

Many of us are not even doing the thinkable and imaginable yet, talk less of the unthinkable and the unimaginable. I pray that we will put that power to use in Jesus name.

Primarily the power of God upon our lives is to witness for Him; to stimulate godly attraction; and to draw sinners to Christ. We can do these by combining speaking to people; by demonstrating acts of faith and by our lifestyle.

Psalm 67:1-7 – The blessings of God upon you is supposed to be a means of witness unto God. The ends of the earth can fear God because of the mercy He has shown towards you.

What has God bless you with? In which or what way are you using that blessing to witness unto Him? Or are you using the same blessing to witness against Him? If not for so and so, I would have done this and that for the Lord. God however cannot be mocked…


I decree that the city of Leeds and United Kingdom come under the authority and leadership of Jesus Christ.

I decree the pulling down of anything that is contrary to the will and purpose of God for my life and the lordship of Jesus over this city.

Father, let your reign and power be made known in the city of Leeds through us.

Acts 20:38

Father, let the fresh anointing of the Holy Ghost power come upon me.

Father, let your presence and power be vivid upon my life.

Acts 1:1 – Father, grant me a great experiential encounter with you and help me to pass that experience on.

Job 5:12

Father, break up, disrupt and frustrate any imagination, thought, idea, spoken word or intentions against my life.

Father, render every conspiracy from Hell against my life to come to nought.

Jer. 1:10

Father, terminate every contract, covenant, an agreement that exist between Leeds City and spiritual wickedness.

Col. 2:3

Father, by the power in the Blood of Jesus, obliterate every handwriting and ordinance that had been programmed in the heavenlies against my life.

The sermon, But You Have Received Dunamis – Power, by Pastor Samuel Obafaiye, was delivered on September 23, 2018.


Ten Principles of Biblical Marriage, by Pastor Samuel Obafaiye

How we approach marriage, more importantly, how we fulfil it, is extremely important to our own welfare and homes. It will either yield great joy and fulfilment or heartache and disappointment. The Biblical principles we will review are general in a statement.

Depending on one’s situation in life, there can be exceptions, especially Principle 1. Some people remain single and never marry. Therefore, these Biblical principles serve as a foundational definition for the subject of marriage.


A Man needs a Wife.

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. – Genesis 2: 18

It has clearly been proven that men live longer and are healthier as a result of marriage. Companionship is a key component to marriage.

To have the same companion from youth to old age is true friendship and love. The word “helper” is really “help meet.” A “help meet” is much more than a mere helper. “Help meet” means companion; it means she is there until the job is finished. (e.g. dog helps)

Help meet also has a strong spiritual tone. A wife helps the man to meet the Lord expectations.

10: Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11: The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12: She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
— Proverbs 31

How frequently do you see real rubies, diamonds, emeralds or pearls? The Bible says that an excellent wife is rare than jewels. Men may not be experts about precious gems, but they can discern a virtuous woman is rare more than jewels.

He knows what trusting in her means and how he will be safe with her the rest of his life. He knows that her great value is not about gain or investment. He knows that she is priceless and can never be replaced.

Ladies who want to get married. Be priceless. Gain the trust of your fiancé. Let him know that you will do him good all the days of his life if he marries you. Don’t make yourself cheap because of a movie date, a dinner date or an ice cream cone. You both will have a nice time, but he will look for another wife material.

Any man who is 25 and above here and yet to marry, wave your hand. You need a wife.

For those who claim to be an exception to this principle must need to be truly exceptional. Not marrying a wife/husband does not mean paedophilia, sodomy, masturbating or rape.

I Cor. 7:8-9

But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


Marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman, initiated by the exchange of vows.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. — Genesis 2: 24

Marriage is not a partnership or a contract; it is considerably more than that. Marriage is a covenant. Partnerships and contracts are agreements of “consideration given for consideration received.”

It is not maintained by both parties meeting their obligations; it is a reality of giving oneself regardless of the return value from the other. A covenant is of undetermined length. It is forever or until it can no longer be done, “Until death do us part.”

This covenant causes names to change. This covenant changes the place called “home.” A marriage covenant establishes a preference in relationship greater than parent-child or siblings. A marriage covenant creates a new reality that the whole of creation accepts, including the Creator.

This is why a divorce is more than just breaking a contract. A divorce rips the very fabric of the soul when the marriage covenant is broken. A broken vow, an oath that is breached, or a pledge not fulfilled is an internal dilemma reaching deep into the person that no soothing balm can reach.  A broken contract can be solved by paying for the damages, but the damage of a broken covenant continues long after.

Some men and women never quite leave their father and mother when they get married. Consequently, they have not chosen their spouse above all others. In truth of fact, they never made the proper marriage covenant from the beginning and the result become inevitable divorce.

Many pre-marriage counsellors will recommend that a new couple live separately and away from both sets of parents to guarantee that the proper bond (cleaving) is established in the marriage.

Becoming “one flesh” is the consummation of the verbal vows, but it is not a replacement for them. Becoming “one flesh” before the vows of marriage is fornication and distorts the entire pattern and purpose of intimacy in the marriage.

If you have been living together as partners without a vow, your marriage is faulty and shaky. You need to arrange to exchange your vows.

Some believe that marriage is too costly, so they opt for civil partnership. But what you should not eat, why try to smell it.

Our society has also sought to redefine what marriage is, but can one re-define what they didn’t define in the first place? No. God defined marriage, only Him can re-define it if He so wishes. It has to be a union between a man and a woman, period. Every other kind of a union is a sin, regardless of the spirituality or the calibre of who is in it.


The Husband is the head of the house and responsible for the marriage.

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. — Genesis 3: 16

This verse is probably hated by more women than any other verse in the Bible, “he shall rule over you.” To a woman, these words confront her unbelief and mistrust in her husband, particularly having known his shortcomings. From a counselor’s point of view, it is evidence of not loving her husband. Love believes all things.

True and mature leaders know that the authority to rule comes after full responsibility has been accepted. True authority is given by those who are under the rule. Demanding authority over another or exercising that authority to prove its existence is a leader on the path to failure. A wife’s desire for her husband will naturally result in her giving him authority over her because she believes he has taken full responsibility for her.

During the courtship phase of a marriage relationship, the man pursues his prospective wife. It’s like a game. Actually, he chases her until she gets caught! While in marriage, the woman effort is to have him to herself alone.

What was done in courtship should not end at the wedding? The marriage should continue with the man initiating and the woman completing. Should a correction be needed or should something need to be started it is the husband’s responsibility and duty to start the actions?

Does this mean that the man is only to blame when something goes wrong? Is it the husband’s fault if the marriage fails? No. But God will start the blame from him (Adam, where are you? Though He didn’t stop there, He blame Eve also and even the Serpent).

Some may claim that the verse is a curse and that they reject it. Yes, we are to reject curses, yet God still has order he has put in place in every establishment. In the home, the husband is the head for orderliness.

I Cor. 11:3

But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.

One of the quickest ways to be popular or make fortune is Women Advocacy. If the truth were to be told, women are to be given more opportunities in the society, but at home, the husband is in charge.

The mode of leading or the method of ruling in the home by the husband is very important. It must not be that of terror; dictatorship, or selfish. Otherwise, it won’t work.


The Husband is commanded by God to love his wife.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
— Ephesians 5: 25-30

Love in a marriage seems as natural as breathing for the wife. But for the husband, love in the marriage has to be a determined act of his will.

Yes, love is an emotion; yet, for many men in the earlier years of the relationship, it is the “love of the chase.” This is why some men never grow up and keep chasing other women even after being married. God’s command for a man to love his wife is more than an emotion, a feeling, or a game. It is a determined act whereby he must direct his energies for the specific purpose to provide for, to protect, and to be passionate toward his wife.

There is not a wife who doesn’t want her husband to desire her for being a woman. This is where the chasing game is carried on into the marriage. She wants to be pursued and desired before he catches her. The husband must learn to keep chasing his wife, even though she is caught.

Fundamentally, the number one need of a wife in a marriage is love. The husband is commanded to meet this need. By loving his wife socially, he provides her with a home, the resources to live, and a safe and secure place for her and the children. By loving her emotionally, he assures and comforts her, shielding her from fear and harm. By loving her physically, he proves that his attention and focus are on her and she is secure in his desires.

The commandment to love his wife means that the husband is to commit his energy, resources, creativity, and attention, and focus on his wife.

This can be further explained by a song sand by a soul artist called Tina Charles in 1975/76. That she loves to love, but her baby just loves to dance. While she loves to love him; he loves to dance. The problem is without the music, will he still love her?


The Wife is commanded by God to respect her husband.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.Ephesians 5: 22-24

Too often, Biblical teachers have equated “be subject” with “obey.” As a consequence, the opposition has grown in the American culture to the extent that many women refuse to say “I promise to love, honour, and obey you” in the traditional wedding vows

Instead of the word “obey” amplifying the phrase “be subject to” or the word “submit,” let’s use the word “respect.” Now let’s restate the commandment. Wives, respect your husband, just as you respect the Lord. That changes something dramatically. Instead of the ultimatum to obey (like a lowly slave), respect opens the door to balance and understanding. Respect is something given in measure to being respectable. Respect is in parallel with love and honour. Obedience does not require love or honour; however, respect does require them.

The number one complaint of distraught wives is that they don’t respect their husbands because their husbands continue to do things not worthy of respect. A husband who does not provide, protect, or show passionate love for his wife is on thin ice for respectability.

But oft times, the man does provide and protect, he is faithful and desires his wife. But the wife treats him in a very disrespectful manner simply because he is a man. Wives who do this should think back to how their mother treated their father. Many times it is a pattern and it is a learned behaviour, so they have to unlearn been disrespected.

This is why God commands wives to respect their husbands. Wives must make a determined decision to accomplish this. It takes energy and a sustained will to do so.

Naturally, what I have found out is that when a man has become intimate with a woman, your respect percentage drops drastically. If it was 100% before, it may drop to 50%. That is why you see a lady of 20 years call her husband of 60 years Baby. She might have been calling him Daddy or Uncle before then. As long as he is baby in her mouth, but lord in her heart, it’s fine.

How a wife respects her husband is a reflection of how she respect Jesus Christ. We sing “To my husband, I surrender, unto thee I freely give, I will ever love and trust him; in his presence daily live. I surrender all, I surrender all, All to thee, my blessed husband, I surrender all”. If God hears a wife sings like that, He will be happy with her.

Fundamentally, the number one need of a man in a marriage is respect. The wife is commanded to meet this need. The commandment to respect your husband means praising your husband, both to him and to others, and submitting to his leadership, guidance, and judgment. Even if he makes a mistake and is wrong. He will learn.

This is how men learn every day at their jobs. A wife who believes she needs to teach her husband by correcting him only succeeds in embarrassing him. When a wife disrespects her husband with critical words, treats him with disdain, and holds him in contempt, she will destroy her primary source of provision and protection from God. She also breaks Gods commandment to respect him. When a wife learns how to respect husband, he’ll treat her like a queen that she is.


The Husband and Wife are joint heirs to life.

And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man. — Genesis 2: 22

To have children, it requires a man and woman joining together to procreate. A man can not do it alone nor can a woman do it alone, except there is a third party involved, as in our time (surrogacy; implantation). God cannot be mocked. Confuse world.

They jointly form the product of each new child. The woman was not made from the dust of the earth like the man; therefore, she should not be treated like dirt. The woman did not fly down from heaven; therefore, she should not be over anyone’s head. She was taken from her husband’s side; therefore, her rightful place is at his side.

The woman’s need for security can only be met fully by her husband. The husband’s need for respect can only be met fully by his wife. When both needs are being met, the marriage is like the wedding ring. It is made of precious metal and valuable gems; it goes round and round, with no beginning and no end. Life is good and wonderful. When one of the needs (either security or respect) is not being met, the ring is broken. There is now a clear beginning and end to the ring. The ring has become a piece of twisted metal. The passion of love becomes the passion of anger and hate. It leads to treachery. The remaining metal of the ring becomes a bad memory and is pawned for a fraction of its cost. However, the treachery and hate can last long after the divorce.

When both needs are met, the home is a pleasant place for all.

Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table. — Psalms 128: 3

To be a joint heir means to share in the same heritage and inheritance. Husbands and wives come from different houses, but when they are joined together, they are part of the same house with the same Heavenly Father.

There is a fundamental difference between a secular and spiritual marriage. A secular marriage is a shared proposition. It’s a mutually agreeable contract. Sometimes, these marriages stay together simply because they don’t have any other choice.  The spiritual point of view on marriage is one that embraces the author of marriage. It is one where both the husband and the wife are under the authority of God. But the bottom line is this: a spiritual marriage is where the husband and wife know they were destined for each other. They also share the same problems and joys of life. They make their “choice” for each other believing it is God’s will.


A Wife is God’s grace to the Husband.

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD. — Proverbs 18: 22

The favour mentioned here is unmerited favour or grace from God. That means that men don’t deserve all the good they receive from God through their wives.


This is simply a truth that wise men come to learn. For those who have come to understand this will cherish and nurture their wife. That becoming married can make you find greater favour with God.

Even more so, when a wife truly understands that she was presented by the Lord for her husband as a substance of value, she too has developed wisdom. She will carry herself with poise and dignity.

House and riches are the inheritance of fathers and a prudent wife is from the LORD. — Proverbs 19: 14

Your parent may leave you with riches, but only God can give you a good wife.

The sermon, Ten Principles of Biblical Marriage, by Pastor Samuel Obafaiye, was delivered on September 16, 2018.